i-am-river:

So, i read this awful article using bathroom “scare tactics,” which was claiming that trans women are potential rapists. “Men” who dress as women to gain access to women only spaces and force them self on women. This really upset me and i had a bit of a Twitter rant. They were read by others and i was urged to post them in other media also, so i am posting them here. (Edited together in easy reading format from top to bottom.)

This is the link in the first tweet about how there are no cases of a trans woman attacking a cis woman in public restrooms: Link 1.

This is the link in the second tweet about the cases where trans people are assaulted in the bathroom by cis people: Link 2.

Reblogged from pipervaughn

piecesofamoonchyld:

Recently Kaige told us he wishes he could be both a boy and a girl because he likes playing princesses as much as ninjas and he doesn’t want to get made fun of. So we bought him a tutu and gave him a makeover. Meet the new and improved Kaige. If you have a problem with it please keep it to yourself and kindly stay out of his life. Which would be a shame because as you can see he’s freakin’ awesome! #letmebeme #mumblr #stopbullying

This is WINNING at parenting. Let the kid be who they want to be! I love this!

piecesofamoonchyld:

Recently Kaige told us he wishes he could be both a boy and a girl because he likes playing princesses as much as ninjas and he doesn’t want to get made fun of. So we bought him a tutu and gave him a makeover. Meet the new and improved Kaige. If you have a problem with it please keep it to yourself and kindly stay out of his life. Which would be a shame because as you can see he’s freakin’ awesome! #letmebeme #mumblr #stopbullying

This is WINNING at parenting. Let the kid be who they want to be! I love this!

Reblogged from piecesofamoonchyld

"My response to the “I am not a feminist” internet phenomenon….

First of all, it’s clear you don’t know what feminism is. But I’m not going to explain it to you. You can google it. To quote an old friend, “I’m not the feminist babysitter.”

But here is what I think you should know.

You’re insulting every woman who was forcibly restrained in a jail cell with a feeding tube down her throat for your right to vote, less than 100 years ago.

You’re degrading every woman who has accessed a rape crisis center, which wouldn’t exist without the feminist movement.

You’re undermining every woman who fought to make marital rape a crime (it was legal until 1993).

You’re spitting on the legacy of every woman who fought for women to be allowed to own property (1848). For the abolition of slavery and the rise of the labor union. For the right to divorce. For women to be allowed to have access to birth control (Comstock laws). For middle and upper class women to be allowed to work outside the home (poor women have always worked outside the home). To make domestic violence a crime in the US (It is very much legal in many parts of the world). To make workplace sexual harassment a crime.

In short, you know not what you speak of. You reap the rewards of these women’s sacrifices every day of your life. When you grin with your cutsey sign about how you’re not a feminist, you ignorantly spit on the sacred struggle of the past 200 years. You bite the hand that has fed you freedom, safety, and a voice.

In short, kiss my ass, you ignorant little jerks.”

Libby Anne (via newwavenova)

I will always reblog this.

mikes-grrl:

nvansistine:

lianabrooks:

britegreenstar:

libraryadvocates:

lalie:

The fact that the ALA shared this link is so gloriously bitter and angry and I love it.

Is there a portmanteau for that? Angritter? Bangry? 

My library card already gets me multiple “real” books, e-books, audiobooks, magazines and movies per month. For free.

Kindle Unlimited offers nothing from big presses, and no guarantee the authors will get paid fairly for their work. Libraries buy the book up front for a higher price (and a better binding). Kindle Unlimited offers the authors a variable percentage of a as-yet-undetermined-and-unannounced amount of money. 
While Amazon touts Kindle Unlimited at “Netflix For Books!” the reality is Netflix signed contracts with everyone whose work they offer so that actors, screen writers, best boys, and the rest of those people get paid for the shows and movies you watch. Amazon does not.
That means your favorite author isn’t being compensated for their time or work. If you love a book series and want to see the next one get published: buy the book or hit the library. Starving authors quit writing because they like eating. 

Most libraries offer these services for free already - even ebooks and audio books. The fact that Amazon isn’t paying it’s authors is super shady though :/

Please stop. Please do your research. 
First, the great majority of books being made available via subscription services (Oyster, Scribd, and yes Amazon) are not available via most libraries, or are difficult to find (long story, OverDrive sucks).
Second, authors/publishers DO get compensated for books read using these subscription services. Yes, we get better compensation if you buy the book, but it’s not any lesser than if you borrow from the library. 
Third, when you “buy” an ebook from Amazon or most online retailers, you’re not actually buying it, you’re buying a license to read it — you are essentially “leasing” the book for an unlimited time. So theoretically, this isn’t actually any different.
Fourth, libraries are about a hell of a lot more than borrowing books. I could add 5k words here, but let me tell you, Kindle Unlimited is but a blip in library services. If you don’t know what I’m talking about, you haven’t been to a public library lately. You’ll see that movie rentals are still significant despite Blockbuster in the 90s or Netflix today. People who can’t afford Kindle Unlimited will still borrow books. And don’t get me started on the future of libraries as third spaces/community commons. We don’t have all night. 
Fifth: Welcome to the future. The simple fact is that book distribution is still changing and will continue to change, and book subscription services have been “on the horizon” for over 10 years now, so no one has a right to bitch about being cut out of the loop. Anyone who is remotely connected to publishing or libraries knew this was coming. It was inevitable, and now it’s here, and there is no putting this back in the bottle. 
SO: Yes, the compensation terms Amazon has got for Kindle Unlimited is kind of wonky. Keep in mind that this is a new era for book availability and that most book subscription services have been wrestling with these issues. Publishers and authors are still fighting for better terms, as well as better tracking in order to know what books are popular, etc.
I’m definitely not saying Amazon has my best interests at heart, because it is a company like any other out to make a buck.
But I’m saying this as both a professional librarian and as a published genre author: this does not spell the end of libraries, and using this service isn’t going to financially ruin your favorite author. 
tl;dr - These types of subscription services are part of the future of book publishing. They aren’t perfect and there are problems, but they do not represent armageddon for libraries. Please stop with the fear mongering. 

Do your research. I do get paid by subscription services and it is comparable to what I’d get for a book sale.

mikes-grrl:

nvansistine:

lianabrooks:

britegreenstar:

libraryadvocates:

lalie:

The fact that the ALA shared this link is so gloriously bitter and angry and I love it.

Is there a portmanteau for that? Angritter? Bangry? 

My library card already gets me multiple “real” books, e-books, audiobooks, magazines and movies per month. For free.

Kindle Unlimited offers nothing from big presses, and no guarantee the authors will get paid fairly for their work. Libraries buy the book up front for a higher price (and a better binding). Kindle Unlimited offers the authors a variable percentage of a as-yet-undetermined-and-unannounced amount of money. 

While Amazon touts Kindle Unlimited at “Netflix For Books!” the reality is Netflix signed contracts with everyone whose work they offer so that actors, screen writers, best boys, and the rest of those people get paid for the shows and movies you watch. Amazon does not.

That means your favorite author isn’t being compensated for their time or work. If you love a book series and want to see the next one get published: buy the book or hit the library. Starving authors quit writing because they like eating. 

Most libraries offer these services for free already - even ebooks and audio books. The fact that Amazon isn’t paying it’s authors is super shady though :/

Please stop. Please do your research. 

First, the great majority of books being made available via subscription services (Oyster, Scribd, and yes Amazon) are not available via most libraries, or are difficult to find (long story, OverDrive sucks).

Second, authors/publishers DO get compensated for books read using these subscription services. Yes, we get better compensation if you buy the book, but it’s not any lesser than if you borrow from the library. 

Third, when you “buy” an ebook from Amazon or most online retailers, you’re not actually buying it, you’re buying a license to read it — you are essentially “leasing” the book for an unlimited time. So theoretically, this isn’t actually any different.

Fourth, libraries are about a hell of a lot more than borrowing books. I could add 5k words here, but let me tell you, Kindle Unlimited is but a blip in library services. If you don’t know what I’m talking about, you haven’t been to a public library lately. You’ll see that movie rentals are still significant despite Blockbuster in the 90s or Netflix today. People who can’t afford Kindle Unlimited will still borrow books. And don’t get me started on the future of libraries as third spaces/community commons. We don’t have all night. 

Fifth: Welcome to the future. The simple fact is that book distribution is still changing and will continue to change, and book subscription services have been “on the horizon” for over 10 years now, so no one has a right to bitch about being cut out of the loop. Anyone who is remotely connected to publishing or libraries knew this was coming. It was inevitable, and now it’s here, and there is no putting this back in the bottle. 

SO: Yes, the compensation terms Amazon has got for Kindle Unlimited is kind of wonky. Keep in mind that this is a new era for book availability and that most book subscription services have been wrestling with these issues. Publishers and authors are still fighting for better terms, as well as better tracking in order to know what books are popular, etc.

I’m definitely not saying Amazon has my best interests at heart, because it is a company like any other out to make a buck.

But I’m saying this as both a professional librarian and as a published genre author: this does not spell the end of libraries, and using this service isn’t going to financially ruin your favorite author. 

tl;dr - These types of subscription services are part of the future of book publishing. They aren’t perfect and there are problems, but they do not represent armageddon for libraries. Please stop with the fear mongering. 

Do your research. I do get paid by subscription services and it is comparable to what I’d get for a book sale.

Reblogged from mikes-grrl

stickiebun13:

john-gaybert:

mamalalonde:

xxxxredxxxxcatxxxx:

rincrocker:

this only has 800 something notes and that is seriously fucking sad

SIGNAL BOOST THIS SHOULD HAVE MORE THAN A FEW FUCKING NOTES REBLOG UNTIL WE BREAK THE LIMIT

plz direct yrself to THIS post if you think that comics like this are necessary and that cisphobia is a pressing issue thank you

it’s not to do with whether or not cisphobia is a genuine problem it’s about not fucking bullying people

No one is perfectly safe here unless they happen to be a person who is practically every repressed minority possible who conforms to all of Tumblr’s ideals, and even then someone would find a problem with you. No matter where you go you won’t find a true safe haven. people will always find reasons to send people hate. opinions, lifestyle, physical looks…

Seriously, guys. Just because Majority groups seem to have it made doesn’t mean that they don’t face their own problems because of it. And you don’t support one group of people by putting down another group of people. If you do that then YOU are creating the problem.

Its OK to be *insert Gender identity*
Its OK to be *Insert Sexuality*
It’s OK to be *Insert skin color*
Its OK to be *Insert body type*
It’s OK to be from *Insert country*
It’s OK to be struggling with *Insert mental or physical problems*
It’s OK to be yourself

It is NOT ok to shame, harass, bully, etc. other people for being different than you or being something they have no control over.

Reblogged from reapergrellsutcliff

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Chris didn’t want to get in between the couple. Actually, he hadn’t realized they were a couple until this little exchange. Greg said he was going to take a quick shower, leaving him and Liam alone. He finished getting dressed, trying like crazy to ignore Liam. Chris had just slipped on his shoes when Liam stepped in front of him and straddled his legs.

“What are you doing?” Chris glanced toward the showers.

“Just having a little fun.” Liam nuzzled Chris’s neck, kissing below his ear.

The pressure in his body grew. Not only did his dick wake up, his lungs burned, and his head throbbed.

“You need to—”

“I know what I need.” Liam bit down on Chris’s earlobe.

The pain was just as delicious as it was erotic. He moaned and closed his eyes. This weekend, he’d need to find someone willing to let him blow off some steam, but he hated the club scene. There were too many guys being false. That’s why he’d started the relationship with Phillip. Neither one of them liked the party circuit.

positiveolive:

employedsmartfancybreadfish:

chocolatula:

xchrononautx:

tamarma:

bunnika:

I seriously just had to teach my mother some basics of parenting.

Both photos are of my daughter in October, the first in 2011, the second in 2012.  I let her pick out her own clothes, shoes, haircuts, hair colors, anything superficial, really.  She’s too young to understand the permanence of piercings, so she doesn’t have any.  But hair grows, shoes get grown out of, clothes go threadbare.  These things don’t really matter—shouldn’t really matter—but anyone raising a gender-variant child knows the world isn’t that kind.

My daughter recently requested a haircut like mine.  A long flop on top, pixie-length fade on the back and sides.  She’s been bugging me for weeks to color her hair again, I just haven’t had the time.  But today she came to me with the same shyness she keeps developing when outside our home; she’s being pressured by peers and family to look “normal,” to grow her hair long and uncolored, to dress a certain way (she hates to match), to indulge in self-consciousness, and alter or not alter her appearance to gain the approval of others, and society at large.

THIS FUCKING INFURIATES ME.

I called my mother tonight, because my daughter had become shy again, and didn’t want to color her hair anymore, and she said it was because of what her Nana had said to her.  My mother told me we should get that spray-on Halloween hair colors, so it wouldn’t be so “permanent” and my daughter could be “normal” again to avoid being bullied.

IT IS NOT THE JOB OF THE VICTIM TO STOP BEING BULLIED.  IT IS THE BULLY’S JOB TO STOP BULLYING.

I know she gets teased sometimes, and we always talk about it.  She stays strong and confident, so long as she has the support of those around her.  But what that support falters, or pulls a 180, she’s left to crash.

She also gets teased for liking dinosaurs and not dolls.  She gets teased for preferring roughhousing to playing house.  She gets teased for liking Lightning McQueen and not Cinderella.  Where do we draw the line?

My mother thinks this is a “minor” thing, that it’s better to just blend in.  But it would plant the seed of doubt, it forms the foundation for queer kids staying in the closet, for disabled kids to feel worthless, for young girls accepting abusive partners.  This is not “minor,” it is fucking MAJOR, because this is my daughter’s foundation, and it will shape her life.

Support your fucking kids.  Let them be who they want to be, look how they want to look, and play how they want to play.  And make sure they know that you will love them no matter what.

Will always beblog this.

FUCK YES TO THIS<3

cutest kid i’ve ever seen. bless. <3

WELL SAID.

As a parent this hits hard. Grandparents can be total dicks about parenting choices, but really though, I’ve been their child. If I want a happy child, imma just take that advice and do the exact opposite.

You are an EPIC parent! Never allow the stupidity of others to dictate your truth! Be who you are, because no one else can be you!

Reblogged from positiveolive